CHAPTER 5 - HOUSEHELPS
Many people seeing this topic would quickly rush to it. But be prepared because what you are expecting to hear may not be what is written in this manual. I have seen people who would rather be on their own than get househelps because of what they heard about them.
There are people even christians who believe nothing good can come out of a person who is a houseboy or housegirl as they are popularly called. Some feel househelps are usually witches or mammy-water. I do not hold it against them, for I have heard of a housegirl who used pestle to pound the leg of the baby she was meant to care for.
Job 3:25 For the thing which I greatly fear comes upon me, and that of which I am afraid befalls me.
Many feared and believed that househelps are husband and wife snatchers, and unfortunately it came upon them according to their faith.
NOTE: when I use the term househelps, the scope of this manual covers only those who are either children or teenagers.
If you can stay without a househelp, please do. But if you desire to have one, make up your mind to take good care of them, treat them like children of a human being and most importantly of God. Consider it old fashion to feed househelps with dog's plate.
Buy good clothes for them as you buy for your children. If you care for them properly, they would be able to translate the care to your children.
A friend of mine came for a weekend in my apartment, when he left the next day, he commented that the househelps were always happy. He said he felt they were my siblings.
Many bad names given to househelps are sometimes caused by the so-called leaders in the house.
Gen 39:17,18 Then she said, "That Hebrew slave of yours tried to rape me! But when I screamed for help, he left his coat and ran out of the house."
Joseph was a househelp, and he was termed a wife snatcher or rapist for what he did not even do. There are many househelps that have been so accused falsely. These are children that could make it in life.
Sarah made her servant girl to sleep with her husband.
Please do not lead your househelps to do evil If you are a christian, lead them to Christ. Even in scripture, there are godly househelps. Joseph was one of such. Also was Naaman's slave girl in 2 Kings 5:1-4. I led my househelps to accept Jesus as their Lord and Saviour. And they practice studying their Bibles daily. It is so sweet to have everyone in your household serving God.
Act 10:2 Cornelius was a very religious man. He worshiped God, and so did everyone else who lived in his house. He had given a lot of money to the poor and was always praying to God. (CEV)
Cornelius was a happy man because everyone (that includes househelps and servants) in his house worshiped God with him.
Act 16:31 They replied, "Have faith in the Lord Jesus and you will be saved! This is also true for everyone who lives in your home."
Act 16:32 Then Paul and Silas told him and everyone else in his house about the Lord.
Act 16:33 While it was still night, the jailer took them to a place where he could wash their cuts and bruises. Then he and everyone in his home were baptized. (CEV)
If you believe that your biological children can be godly, This is also true for everyone who lives in your home (includes househelps). Permit me to put it this way 'this is also true for your househelps'.
If you believe that your children can be saved, 'this is also true for your househelps'.
If you believe your children should eat good food, 'this is also true for your househelps'.
If you believe your children could put on good clothes, 'this is also true for your househelps'.
They would be better helps if they know Christ. If you study the book of Philemon in the Bible, He had a 'useless' househelp(slave) called Onesimus, but after Onesimus gave his life to Christ, He became more than a 'useful' brother.
Buy gifts and clothes for them, but my advice is - Husbands and Wives - care for them as a couple not individually. And do not give the devil any chance to destroy your home.
Chapter 2 (The place of the cane) also applies to the househelps, when necessary make use of normal cane on them, not pots or frying pan. Do not hit their heads on the wall or curse them in the name of your great grand ancestors. They are human beings like your children.
The Weymouth New Version
1Tim 5:8 “But if a man makes no provision for those dependent on him(children, wards…), and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is behaving worse than an unbeliever”.
Are you there, always donating millions to social groups and even churches, yet you don't provide for the basic needs of your children and those depending on you (including the ones you call househelps). The bible says you are not just an unbeliever but worse.
· This manual focuses on training and caring for the child/teenager. Hence some other things concerning Househelps may be found in marriage counselling books
· It is also important to investigate who you are bringing to your home, their parents and background, but if you made up your mind to live with them, also make up your mind to take good care of them.